Why I’m An Asshole, And So Are You

I know, I know. Harsh title. My other option was “What I learned during my Facebook Hiatus”, but this is deeper than a four month stretch of being removed from the most popular platform on the internet.

Maybe you’re not an asshole. Congratulations. Maybe I’m an asshole only part of the time (one can only hope). But what I learned from my absence is that my anger is relative to my environment. Now, this is not a monumental revelation, it’s basic common sense. Hostile environments create hostile responses. As I sat in traffic one day on I-25 between Denver, and Colorado Springs, I had an extended phone conversation with my good friend, Steve, catching up on both personal, and political happenings. At one point he asked “Stacy, have you ever met anyone in politics who is happy? Genuinely happy?” My response was of course, no.

Jump to me reactivating Facebook recently. I wasn’t back on for 24 hours before I lit into a family member, and the (bless their hearts) women commenting on the post. Standard misinformed meme. No. This high school in Frisco, Texas DOES NOT have a prayer room exclusively for the Muslim students. It’s a room any student can use for prayer time, Bible study, meditation . . . Reportedly the school chose to make this space available because many of the Muslim students were missing valuable class time on Fridays for prayer. If the concern is that the space is utilized far too much by the Muslim students, then perhaps the Christian students should spend more time in prayer. (I’m just sayin’ . . .)

This interaction on that meme made me consider why it bothered me so much. It bothered me because it was patently untrue. Untrue, and the carelessness that these memes, or unsubstantiated “articles” are tossed about are infuriating. The source, this family member, is someone politically, and historically inept. That’s not an insult, just an observation. I have a saying. “Source, source, source.” That means, find three unbiased sources to substantiate your claim before you post it. It saves you, and those commenting from looking the fool.

This meme brought back to mind a day, a couple years ago when I was at the Independence Institute for a meeting, and a state senator happened to stop by to visit with us. I’m not quite sure how we got on the subject, but I remember her stating an issue she, and some other electeds had when trying to make the case that Thomas Jefferson was a Christian. I bit my tongue, and in hindsight I wish I hadn’t. Jefferson’s own contemporaries called him “That godless Jefferson.” Again, patently untrue, unsubstantiated. This time, the source was a respected, educated woman, that really should know better.

I tend to believe my type, the “Constitutionalist, classical liberal, gets the fuck what the founders meant” type suffer more anger, however righteous it may be, than the individuals who adhere to the fringes. But what am I going to do about it? Vent on Facebook? Respond with a terse comment? Whose mind does it actually change? I’ve come to the conclusion that the chances of us changing a person’s mindset via social media, is rarely possible, and all it does is paint everyone involved as an asshole. Even if we are correct. Which I, and my close friends always are. 😉

I have decided that rather than beating my head against the wall metaphorically, it’s healthier for me to instead chronicle my thoughts on this website. At the end of the day, I still desire to promote the ideals that this country was founded on. At the end of the day, I still desire to shut down the lies of the fringes. At the end of the day, I hope many of you choose to hang out here with me.


  1. Jay North

    August 9, 2017 at 5:57 pm

    I guess I’m just gonna have to read over here ….

  2. Phil

    August 9, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    I loves memes,though I sometimes pronounce them mems. I guess I am an asshole… Even when I know a meme is blowing smoke up my ass I may share it anyhow because I agree with the sentiment. If too extreme, or too repeated, I don’t bother.
    FB is a huge echo chamber. The left’s seem to get increasingly shrill, the right’s increasingly strident. Avoid the ones you don’t like, take the rest with a grain (maybe a shot), I always confuse those.
    Great success and enjoy the cabin.

  3. Mike Bay

    August 10, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    Took me a bit to interpretively sort memes from mimes. I didn’t have to sort assholes; besides we all havin’ one, there’s a pretty high certainty that if one has any presence online whatsoever, someone out there considers one to be an asshole, especially when the considerer is from Hypersensitivityville, where micro aggressions are marketed and manufactured like shredded silk curtains in the House of Cats.

    That said, I’ll always drop by to read any of your pearls of wisdom.

  4. Keith

    August 10, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    ‘We’re all Aholes now…’

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